Weekend Vibes 0403

It's finally the weekend and I couldn't be more excited! It's been a crazy week filled with nothing but staring at a computer screen. I've been working diligently on client projects, as my email inbox fills to an unmanageable level. It's time to relax and call it a week. Yesterday I spent some time with my headphones in cultivating a weekend playlist. I hope you have a productive and relaxing weekend. It's EASTER, so break out the Pastels (is that even a thing still?) and get to church! 

I've been working hard on cultivating some new content for the blog. I think you're going to like it. Spending the morning with the incredibly talented Tyler Mazaheri editing some photos for an upcoming post. I can't wait to share this content with you! 

Happy Easter, and happy weekend!

Cheers!

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Hump Day

Ok, so I'm in Spring mode now... Here is my Hump Day choices for this beautiful 75º weather in Fort Smith, AR today. I'm usually like to keep it dark, but today I'm adding some POC (Pop of Color) to the attire. 

Click on the products below to purchase or for more information.

  • SHIRT Burkman Bros. Tab Placket Shirt, On sale $48
  • PANTS Bellerose Perth Pants, On sale $46.50 (These are super lightweight and comfy)
  • SHOES Grenson Sharp Cap Brogue Boots, $440
  • SUNNIES Ray-Ban Wayfarer, $180
  • BAG Brooks England Pickwick Leather Trimmed Canvas Backpack, $250
  • SKIN Kiehl's Oil Eliminator, $27 (this stuff is great if you have oily skin like I do. It helps matte the shine)



My Oscar Favorites

This was an interesting year, and the fashion was nothing less than impressive. Below are my favorites for the 2015 Oscars. 

THE BOYS

There seemed to be a running theme this year between both the men and women nominees. Lots of navy and lots of white/ivory. The boys turned out in Navy and the Ladies are all in stunning variations of "Ice Blue."

Is this a segment of who wore it better? Eddie vs. Ansel. More like McQueen vs. Prada. Personally, I'm loving the lapels on Eddie's McQueen suit. It works and fits his body perfectly. Ansel on the other hand, looks like he could have had his Prada number tailored a bit more. (Maybe it's just the photo) Either way, both work and I would love to get my hands on either suit. 

Eddie Redmayne wearing Alexander McQueen Photo by Jason Merritt / Getty
Eddie Redmayne wearing Alexander McQueen Photo by Jason Merritt / Getty
Ansel Elgort wearing Prada Jason Merritt / Getty
Ansel Elgort wearing Prada Jason Merritt / Getty

Jared Leto always shows up in the most unique looks. He's like the cool kid that just does what he wants. Looking like he just stepped out of an 80's prom, he's got my vote. 

I've got to have one solid black look on my list. Chris Pine takes the cake in Giorgio Armani. Simple, sleek, and to the point. You can't go wrong with this look. 

Jared Leto Photo by Jordan Staruss
Jared Leto Photo by Jordan Staruss
Chris Pine wearing Giorgio Armani  Photo by Jordan Staruss / AP 
Chris Pine wearing Giorgio Armani  Photo by Jordan Staruss / AP 

THE LADIES

The ladies turned out on point tonight as well. Now before you question me, hear me out. Lady Gaga's dress is gorgeous, I'm not a fan of the gloves but they just wouldn't work on anyone but her. Reese looks like perfection in this Tom Ford dress, but she's done the same look for the past few years. Lupita has got to be my favorite of the evening over all. I'm a sucker for Calvin Klein Collection, more so I LOVE Francisco Costa. Lupita killed it tonight! 

Lady Gaga wearing Azzedine Alaia Photo by Jason Merritt / Getty
Lady Gaga wearing Azzedine Alaia Photo by Jason Merritt / Getty
Reese Witherspoon wearing my favorite designer Tom Ford Photo by Jordan Staruss / AP
Reese Witherspoon wearing my favorite designer Tom Ford Photo by Jordan Staruss / AP
Lupita Nyong'o wearing Calvin Klein Collection Photo by Jordan Staruss / AP
Lupita Nyong'o wearing Calvin Klein Collection Photo by Jordan Staruss / AP

It's 2015 Already?

So 2015 is starting off nicely if I do say so myself. I can't complain thus far!! Tonight I'm reflecting on last year and anticipating the year to come. I can't wait to take you all on this amazing journey with me. I would love to connect with you and I look forward to getting to know you even if it's from behind a computer screen! 

Jacket Vintage Members Only
Sweater H&M Stripe Sweater
Shirt H&M Check Button Down

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What's So Bad About Porn?

If you follow my blog, you know that we aren't afraid to address topics that might rub people the wrong way (no pun intended). I'm a very open person and like to address things from fashion, politics, and today - the topic of porn.

Ok WHAT? Why? What needs to be said about PORN? Isn't that kinda self explanatory? Why talk about such a "private" issue? What exactly is there to talk about in relation to PORN? It's just PORN!!?!

Let me first say that I am no expert, nor will I ever be. I'm just an informed friend of many who struggle with this issue.

I'm going to do my best to address a few statements I made yesterday on Facebook. If you haven't seen the comments I made, below is the post.

Yesterday I came across an article fightthenewdrug.org post about a billboard PornHub, an online porn site, put up in Time Square. Now, aside from wether you do or don't think porn is right or wrong, this billboard is too much. This was my original issue that I was speaking about when I made comments on Facebook. I then added the hashtag #PornKillsLove - this is where the discussion started. If you're reading this because you participated in the conversation last night – thank you. I read each comment and depending on what lens you view this issue through, all were diverse and interesting to read. Shall we begin?

Thought #1 - Porn isn't just a Religious, Secular, Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Transgender, or Straight issue. It's all of the above.

Interesting huh? If you're addressing porn from a Religious perspective, it's a horrible thing that shouldn't be talked about. From a Secular perspective, it's acceptable and everyone does it. LGBT perspective, depending on who you talk to - it's apart of subculture. Porn knows no title. I have Atheist Gay friends who are so anti-porn it's not even funny, but I also have friends in the church world who just say "it's a natural part of a man's life." So pinning this topic on one person group isn't relevant to the conversation we are going to have today.

Thought #2 - Porn – The Science of it.

For this thought, I need to let someone who is much smarter than I am to talk about this. Gary Wilson - Author of Your Brain On Pornsays it best in his 2012 TEDx Talk about the science of what porn does to your brain. Please watch this entire video, Gary proves porn isn't just situational feelings, or personality based addiction, it's scientific. 

Thought #3 - The Real Real

So here's my heart. The reason behind why I'm even talking about this. As a former small group leader to high school students, I've counseled many guys (although stats show that 18% of young women watch porn once a week) through the pitfall of being addicted to porn. I've seen it first hand ruin relationships that lead to divorce. I've seen teenage boys objectify women which lead to domestic violence and eventually time in prison. I had a friend who went straight into the porn industry right after high school, I spoke with him a few months ago when he retuned back home. He described it as "legal sex trafficking." Hello!!! We haven't and won't, in this post, talk about how the industry itself even works. Yes, these are all situational cases, but it all started with entertaining the idea that porn is natural – porn is just a process of life – everyone does it. 

I'm passionate about this issue because I see it destroying lives everyday of men and women who will never know what life, love, intimacy, is like aside from a screen. Whether you agree with me or not, it's overtaking our society. Almost a silent killer of sort. I made the decision in High School not to let porn into my life, I saw the affect it was having on my friends and I didn't want that. It wasn't because I was a "Christian," it was because I wanted to protect my future relationships and hopefully my future marriage, and family. 

My whole purpose from writing this blog was to simply start a conversation about an issue that is taking over my generation in a very real way. It's not to start a debate, because to be honest, this is a very public yet utterly private issue. In a marriage this issue is between you and your spouse. While you're single, it's an issue of heart and head. I don't have all the answers, but If I can help point just one person in the right direction, writing this was worth it. 

I'd love to talk with you more one-on-one if you'd like to discuss this privately. If you're in the Fort Smith area and need help with this, I can point you in the right direction of people and recourses that can help you with this. 

My last thought before I go enjoy the rest of my Tuesday, is that this addiction can be beatenNow obviously it won't be easy, but it's possible. I know of several men and women who have beaten this. You can too.

Thank you for stopping by, and I would love to hear your comments below. 

 

Other Thoughts:

Why I Stopped Watching Porn: Ran Gavrieli TEDx Talk
The Resurgence - A Guide To Sex & Porn
Fight The New Drug